where you can read responses to questions that my friends have
written me. I really want to listen and answer your questions. So
please send me a note to firstname.lastname@example.org and I
will post it here on my TalkBoard...don't worry, names aren't
important, but experiences are! I hope that by reading what other
kids are going through it will help you too!
Thanks for writing
Can you tell me
about any groups you know of in our community. I have a
friend with me today (Michael) who in in 3rd grade and his mother
died. He is worried about Christmas and how he will feel and
I am trying to find more resources to help him through this hard
time. thank you, Ms. Apple &
Creek Elementary School
Dear Ms. Apple and
Our groups are the 1st and 3rd Monday of every month
6:30 p.m. 17 South 7th Street Lafayette,
IN. Thank you for writing, I am on my way
to Sugar Creek Elementary today to meet you both.
I just had my cousin
die in a car accident. I feel so sad because I played with
her a lot and now I really miss her! Are there other kids my age
who had someone they love die? I feel like I'm all
I am so sorry about
your cousin.You are not alone. There are lots of kids who come to
Sniffles Place and talk and play and learn ways to help a hurting
heart. Please look at our schedule on this website and come visit
us. You would have lots of fun and we would love to have you join
us. I look forward to meeting you.
I was wondering if
there will be camp this fall. My sister died in May and I
really miss her. I thought camp might help me. I am sad a lot
and I don't know what to do.
We aren't having camp
in the fall, but we have some great groups going. I don't know how
old you are, but we are having teen night on the second Monday of
the month. The next Monday is for younger kids. You can
find our schedule here on my website. Check it out.
There are lots of kids who understand how it feels to lose someone
you love. We would love to meet you!
died 2 months ago and I am so sad. I'm sad because I
miss her and I'm sad because my mom is so sad. Is there something
to help her through this? We are both so sad, I don't
know what to do. Can you help.
Yes, we have groups
for children and families that would be helpful for both of you.
Familiy night is the first Monday of each month at 6:30pm. Then on
the 4th Monday we have a new group for daughters who have lost
their moms. Please email, visit our facebook page or call if you
need more information. I would love to meet you and your mom!
Please don't try to handle everything alone!
I just wanted to say
that I hope everyone has a wonderful summer enjoying their family
and friends! I miss my mom a lot since she died this winter, but I
love my dad and my brother!
I am so sorry about
losing your mom. I am glad to hear that you are going to have a
great summer with your dad, brother and friends. I like summer
break too because I get to play more with Louie and Cassie. Hey,
and don't forget to visit me on facebook!
I came to camp and it
was great. I still miss my sister and was wondering if there was
anything else that might help me. I just miss my sister so much.
Nothing is the same without her here!
Yes, we have groups
on Monday nights for kids and their families. We have special
activities on Monday nights for May, June and July. The first
Monday is is our family gathering for adults & children who
have had any kind of loss. The second Monday is for teens and
20 something; the third Monday is for children 0 - 6th grade and
adults who bring them. You can email, call or check out our
facebook page if you have more questions. Plus, you can call
anytime if you just need someone to talk to! I have good
My Mommy died a year
ago and sometimes I miss her so much! I heard there is a camp for
kids like me who lost someone they loved. Is that
right? Can you tell me more about it?
Yes, there is a camp
this April 30 for kids who lost a loved one. You are welcome
to come. It's lots of fun and you will meet new friends who
have also lost someone they love. It is called Trails of Hope Camp
and you can go on line to find a form to sign up. It is
trailsofhope.org. Or you can call Hippensteel to find out more
about it. (765-742-7302) I hope to see you there!
We went to Florida
for Spring break this year. It was kinda fun, but it was
kinda sad too. My brother wasn't there this year. He had
cancer and he died in January. I miss him so much! He
did tease me alot. You know boys do that some times.
But we played together too. So it was sad and I felt guilty having
fun without him. Is that a bad thing?
I am so glad to hear
from you. I am sorry for the loss of your brother. Thank you for
sharing your feelings with me. It must be very different
without him. It's okay to feel sad sometimes and it's okay to have
fun. I'll bet you have lots of great memories of him. I
know I have lots of great memories of my Grandpa Dad. That helps me
when I get sad. I hope your memories will help you too. Write
to me any time. I love to hear from new friends!
This past week I went
to the ocean and I saw so many cool things, jellyfish, shells, so
many people having fun with their families, and seagulls. Even
though I loved every minute of it, I missed my mom terribly. She
died two years ago, and going to places we used to have fun at
although it was fun, it was different. We loved to draw in the sand
and watch the waves carry away the messages. So I simply left a
note for my mom that said..."Jenny loves mom"...and drew a heart
around it. And the waves carried it away. Somehow I think she got
it. Doing this really made me feel like mom was there on that
beach with me. Would you please share this with other kids just in
case they need some ideas. You have given me awesome ideas over the
past year...thanks so much!
Of course I will let
everybody know about your very cool story. Thanks so much for
sharing it, and allowing me to share it as well. I have great
memories about the beach too. The ocean is a great gift we have. So
are mom's. Take care Jenny and let me know if I can help you
May each and every
one of you have a wonderful 2011. Some will struggle with not
having someone they love with them this year. We will be thinking
about you. Please know that you are loved, you have family and
friends that care about you. Take really good care of yourself, get
plenty of sleep and eat good healthy food. I wish you all the
I just wanted to
A great big beary
Merry Christmas to you too! Have a wonderful time.
I gave my Sniffles
bear to my friend because she really needed it. I'm not sure why
she needed it but she was crying and didn't want to talk about it.
I don't think anyone died, but she sure looked like this would be a
great job for Sniffles since you helped me so much. Thank you
so much for making our owies better.
Being a good friend
when you see others hurting is really special. I'm
so happy you passed along your bear to help a friend in need.
I'm sure she really thought that you were awesome. That was a job
for Sniffles...you were right! I am going to put your
note on my website so others can see how you were so
I am very excited
about Thanksgiving and mostly excited about Christmas. My family
always gets together to eat. Sometimes my stomach hurts so bad. I
ate too much! This year will be different than last year, and the
year before that, and the year before that. My moms brother or my
Uncle Sam died this year and he will not be coming to the dinner
like always. He was a real jokester. What's the best way to deal
with the holidays?
The holidays are
wonderful times when we get together with our families. Having
a special person in our life die especially when it's the
first holiday without them is really hard. My friends from all
over have told me alot of stories about how they handle these
times. Some write letters or cards to the person who died. It's OK
if your mom gets sad or cries, she is expressing her sadness that
way. A nice hug may do great things for both of you. If you have
old pictures of your Uncle, ask mom if it's OK to put them up or
carry one around with you. Telling stories helps and by the sound
of it, you would have some pretty funny stories to tell about your
Uncle Sam. I will be thinking about you and your family. When we
are grieving, it is important that we get plenty of rest, drink
plenty of water and eat...but not tooooooo much! : )
I read your book about you and
your Grandpa Dad, can you believe I had the very same
thing happen to me? I do have a question. At my Grandpa's
funeral, there were some people laughing. I did not think that
anything was very funny that day. Did you get mad just like
sorry that your Grandpa died. We must be big kids
now since we went through that. My parents and grandparents talked
with me about how things die before my Grandpa Dad died, so I
knew alittle a bit about it. My mom said that when people laugh at
funerals, they are telling good stories and sharing something
called memories. It's another way of sharing love and
respect. I hope this kinda helps you. I think I was upset
mainly cause Grandpa Dad died. Take care Dan and thank you
for your letter.
year my grandma died and I was very sad and miss her.
But last week, my dog Buster got hit by a car and died. I
cried harder when my dog died, should I feel bad about that? Buster
was the best dog in the whole world.
important to know that people do grieve and miss their pets when
they die just like friends and family. In fact, pets are family to
many people. We talk to them, and they no matter what mood we are
in, still love us. Remembering and missing your Grandma is very
special too. Don't be too hard on yourself. In life, every day has
different situations that happen and we constantly act differently.
Maybe you can plant a flower or tree for both Buster and your
Grandma. Thank you for writing me.
was told that he has cancer and we are in the 6th grade. I don't
what to do, what would you do if Louie was sick?
so sorry to hear about your best friend. I think the first thing I
would do is ask if it hurt. So maybe asking questions will help you
understand what's going on with him. Let him talk to you about
things that make him feel better, sometimes just listening is the
best thing a friend can do. I will be thinking about you and your
friend, and hope that he feels better real soon.
died when I was 10 in a car accident. I am 12 now and I don't know
who to ask about shaving my legs. I don't have any sisters or
grandmas. There are other questions I just can't ask my
so much for writing me I was excited to get your email! It is very
awkward to ask dad's things that we'd ask our mom's if we could.
Your dad might be honored that you would ask him, even though it's
not like asking your mom, I'm sure he'd do his best to help. If you
just can't ask your dad, please ask a friend if you could ask their
mom to help...or a teacher or an aunt. If there are no girlfriends
who are already shaving their legs, maybe you could just google it
on the internet.
really glad I'm a furry bear who doesn't have to shave my legs, but
I know how important it is to 12 year old girls.
luck, my friend! Write me back and let me know how your story